How to Spot 5 Signs of a Toxic Person

By Gregory Jantz

Toxic People.

This could be the title of a bad science fiction movie—a genetic experiment gone horribly wrong, or a planet-wide radiation leak from an orbiting government satellite turning millions of unsuspecting citizens into havoc-wreaking zombies.

If only it were that simple! Compared to the real story—the one that lots of people live out every day because of a toxic person (or people)in their life—those fictional plot lines seem downright appealing. That’s because in Hollywood scripts, a brilliant but unsung hero always finds the key to putting everyone right again and saving the world before the credits roll.

First the good news: The world is full of honest, kind hearted, well-adjusted people. Now the bad news: There are also plenty of people who manipulate, lie, and cheat. You can avoid lots of trouble by knowing what to look out for. Here are five warning signs of a toxic person.

  1. Truth-telling is not a high priority. Even slight variations on what you know to be the truth, or careful omission of facts, is enough to put the person on your watch list.
  2. A lack of emotional intelligence. This term parallels the well-known concept of intelligence quotient (IQ), highlighting the idea that emotional quotient(EQ) is essential for successful relationships. EQ qualities include the ability to manage emotions, connect with others using verbal and nonverbal communication, express empathy, use humor to deal with challenges, and resolve conflicts positively. Toxic people lack these vital skills.
  3. The person talks way too much and listens way too little. Dominating the conversation often signals insecurity, self-centeredness, or narcissism.
  4. He or she always needs to be right. No matter how big or small the topic, the toxic individual doesn’t allow room for differing opinions and turns a discussion into a debate that must be won.
  5. There’s constant drama. Some people attract, and maybe need, consistent episodes of crisis, conflict, and clamor. They seem to thrive on having a big personal mess to clean up and feel uncomfortable with a calm routine.

In his handbook How to Deal with Toxic People, Dr. Gregory Jantz outlines 11 SIGNS OF TOXIC PEOPLE you can use to help you navigate difficult work and life situations as well as solutions and what to do if you encounter them. To read the other 6 (from issues with control to hurtful sarcasm) as well as gain insights and practical advice on how to deal with toxic people, click here!

How to Deal with Toxic People

Packed with real-life stories, biblical suggestions, proven tips, and practical steps, Dr. Gregory Jantz’s handbook will give you courage and tenacity as you take the first steps on the path toward problem solving and wholeness.

With boundaries, problem-solving, and mutual respect, find the tools to turn strained relationships into ones that are enjoyable, supportive and rewarding. In this practical counseling book, you will learn:

The Deceiver. The Gaslighter. The Guilter. The Control Freak. And the Put-down Artist. They are toxic people, and they create turmoil in nearly every setting: work, home, church, school, and relationships of all kinds. Toxic people keep you off-balance; they poison relationships, they stir up discord, making you feel that you are the dysfunctional one. How to Deal with Toxic People offers practical guidance from one of today’s favorite Christian authors.

4 Key Features of This Christian Counseling Book on Dealing with Toxic Behaviors

In How to Deal with Toxic People, Dr. Gregory Jantz examines the kind of behavior that defines a toxic person, the common origins of toxic traits, the ways in which a toxic person impacts the lives of others, and—most importantly—what you can do to protect yourself from toxic people. Enjoy having these key features:

  • Simple summaries and easy-to-understand explanations
  • Practical steps to protect yourself from toxic people, backed by science and by scripture
  • Charts that show key information at a glance
  • Relatable stories that show you how to apply biblical truths to your life

Dr. Jantz shows you that it is possible to free yourself from the effects of toxic people in your life. In fact, it’s vital that you do so to protect and promote your own well-being. You can learn to choose healthy, fulfilling, mutually rewarding, and uplifting relationships—and to drastically limit or end those that don’t measure up. You deserve to be treated by others with respect, honor, and dignity at all times. God wants you to be free!

Perfect for:

  • Group and individual use
  • Divorce groups
  • Discipleship
  • Church library
  • To hand to a friend
  • Biblical and pastoral counseling
  • And more!



One Thought on “How to Spot 5 Signs of a Toxic Person

  1. Thanks so much for this. There’s a lot of talk about toxic people lately and its good to know the difference between a good person making a mistake and a toxic person.

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